Where do...I...go from here?

[sgctxok]

Hi T,
I think what Sg means is that you should treat him as if he is not in a crisis. Treat him as you would a "friend". If he says weird things or tries to bait you just let it roll off your shoulders...bite your tongue until you can vent here.

YES! This and MORE! Do not worry about the 'stages' etc. Just use those things when you are overwhelmed and 'need to understand' where he is. Those things should not help you make decisions as to how to act.

(I've seen too many people set too many ultimatums, or just go off on their own, ignoring skills they should be building and then letting their marriages die.)

DB him using all of the DB techniques as appropriate. Build your communication skills and REAL GIVING (see thread at top of forum)skills.

for example

Vary the When,
The Medium is the Message
Easier Done than Said


for more see Divorce Remedy or search this site.