YR, You give such great advice & your H sounds a lot like my H. When he first told me he wanted D, he said he wasn't in love with me anymore, said he still care about me but I tried to mold him into something he wasn't & that he had to find himself. He said there was no OW, of course I believed him at the time but suspected it. The reason I didn't believe was b/c she was in other state & he was coming home at night. He also said he wanted us to be friends but that was before I found out about her & also before I went after the house & alimony. During all the legal stuff is when he got really mad at me. He even threatened to go after one of the dogs, he knew that would get me. He was very angry at me after all of this & I guess that is what scares me, will he get over that? He is very self centered but seemed to love me so much. He has hurt me & my family & friends so bad. We were the couple most likely to succeed & everyone is so shocked over all of this, we were the last couple that anyone thought this would happen to.
I'm so afraid since he moved to another state that he might not come back. We were so perfect for each other & he adored me as much as I adored him. We were so close & had so many memories together. He was actually insecure & would call me many times during the day to say he loved me & he would always say "you don't love me as much as I love you", I would stay on the phone for 30 minutes or more with him doing that. Of course last summer he didn't do that.
I just don't understand the hold this OW has on him. He once had moral values. I knew he wanted me to move in with him when we first started dating but I wouldn't & he respected me for that & now he is living with this slut!
I'm scared! I know we are divorced now but I still can't give up on him. I miss him so bad!!
I'm so glad things are going well with you & your sitch. Thanks for your advice.
