Joie, Definitely added some helpful things too. How was it that you came to realize and care that it hurt him? Was it the affair or something else he said/did? Do you have advice for me to get it across to my H? Maybe he's not capable of truly caring about my feelings. I'm impressed you read the books and are making it work. I can read the books. I can give the books to H also, but am afraid if I give them to him, he'll resist. I think i have to see him trying so that i can become open again. I'm too afraid of opening myself up (rekindling my desire) only to be in the same situation again - denied.
I'll try suggesting a sex therapist. We've seen a regular therapist, but it doesn't seem to be her area. Maybe this will break down some barriers. Thanks again, -LetGo
