Then he found out a couple of days later that we were going to mediation & it would cost 900.00 per hour, he was mad & cussed me out. He apologized but it wasn't until 3 days later.
It is good that he apologized. It shows that he's still human, not an completely alien. Sounds like your writing the letter was a clever and sensible thing to do to get your message across.
I got a pleasant surprise this morning. My H responded to our email thread from last week. Since he didn't respond to me last Friday, I assumed he wasn't going to and I had let go of expecting. In his email today, he wanted to see if I still wanted his help.
I replied with some questions which he answered in an email. I am really grateful that he initiated the follow-up email. God does answer prayer. -PH