Thank you SO MUCH for offering your point of view with hope. If your H was set on D and changed his mind, maybe I can too (i'm NOT interested in D). I'm determined to change my mind/thinking/hurt,etc. I'm a little worried to hear that I need anything from him to do it. I like Michelle's idea that if just one person changes, the R changes, so I'm trying hard to change MY issues (regardless how they got here). He says he's willing to "work", however I don't think either of us knows what to actually "do" to change anything. I've read SSM and SSW. It seems I have to get over my hurt and go with the "Just Do It" philosophy, but I can't seem to. She doesn't really address the former HD person who now feels utterly broken.
