One minute I am up, the next I am down. I think it is the weather, today is pretty bleak and so I feel a little depressed. My H made a HUGE breakthrough yesterday, well at least it was to me. He prizes himself on being the breadwinner, the one who can pay everything, and doesn't want help. If I am short on cash, he comes up with it. Yesterday, he needed help, and asked me. Luckily I had it to give. I think this is a big step because any other time I have offered to help he said no. This time he said okay and let me handle it. Any thoughts?
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
(((((Lola))))) That does sound like an important step. It is significant to me that he reached out to YOU when he needed help. I think it shows that giving him space is working, so keep it up! Try to do something for YOU today!
I wish I could!! It is a blessing that I have a busy job so it keeps my mind occupied, but you are right. I will give myself a nice pedicure tonight and relax with my daughter (today is McDonald's day so I dont have to cook yeah!!!) Thanks (((Jeff))) I am really glad I found this board. I don't feel so alone anymore.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Hi! I was reading your thread and wanted to say congratulations on your upcoming Granddaughter.
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
Thank you very much! Labor is proving to be long...she is going through irregular contractions right now but she is "nesting" and getting a bit anxious!! Of course, it doesn't help that she is half way across the country...but soon we will have Lola Jr!!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
First counseling session tomorrow for my daughter and me. I am really hoping it helps. Spoke to H again today, counting four times. Contact seems to be going well although there always seems to be a "reason." Is that normal that there always has to be some reason? I don't even call him unless I have a valid reason, even if I have to make one up...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Not that I usually have to make one up mind you. I even got the courage to do a "no contact" email a few weeks back, said I just needed some time to get my head together, and then a good friend of ours had a massive coronary and almost died and I had to talk to him. It almost seems like every time I get to the point where I feel like I don't have anything left to say something comes up. The other thing is every time I have even mentioned not talking anymore, H automatically gets upset. If I mention a D, he has one excuse after another not to do it. I am typically analytical, so you can imagine what all of this has done. My mind is swimming in a thousand different directions, and I am not sure sometimes whether I am coming or going. Isn't this supposed to get easier as time goes on? I mean, I don't feel as raw as I used to right after the split, and Lord knows I have a ton of patience, but sometimes I just want to scream and say I just don't get this...how can two people who obviously love each other be going through this???
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
how can two people who obviously love each other be going through this???
The only way I know how to answer this question is to say that if you didn't love each other, there wouldn't be anything to go through - it would simply be over.
Read the success stories on here, it's a great hope booster. DBing can and does work. He does need time, he needs to make his own decisions. I get very impatient too. It drives me nuts some days. But in a couple days, I wake up happy and feel more like my old self. The roller-coaster sucks, but it does have it's ups at least lol.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
You are right Michelle. I never thought of it that way. I just got through talking to H again today, and it was strange...I went to end the phone call first and he didn't want to get off the phone. I know he needs to make his own decisions and needs time, sometimes it is so hard to remember that just because we are having a rough time does not necessarily mean it is over. I just have to have faith...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
