I'm glad he is acting better. A year is a long time to be dealing with this. I guess no one knows what causes his moods, but I hope this nice one will continue.
(((HUGS))) lwb. I know how hard this is, but at the same time, you keep showing your strength and grace. and oh yes, what a difference a year makes. what a difference.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
Hope you're having a good day. Yes, a year can make a huge difference. I think about a year ago and how I'd gone home to celebrate a family function. H called several times that weekend and I told him I missed him. H was struggling with trying to get a new position at work and I gave him 100% support. Little did I know that he was already involved.
Let's hope for being in a much better, positive spot a year from now!
Thinking of you!
-Sue
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
Hope you're doing well today LWB!!! I agree--just in 6 months things have changed so much for me and our family; I can't even imagine how much will have changed in a year!!! Karen
So, here I am. Running up really close to the 'deadline' I gave H. I told him he needed to come to a mediation appt with me before the end of May, or I would hire an atty. He keeps avoiding me. I regret giving this deadline, but canNOT 'back' out of it, can I? I am sure he remembers it. What do I do?
I see his actions. He is making plans for his life, and they don't include me. I see him distancing himself from me, by staying mostly business (kids/$ talks only). There comes a time right? I hate limbo. I am mortified to be married to a person who is constantly living a single life in one way or another. I am lonely and though I know a new R isn't anywhere in my near future, I think I would be less lonely if I worked through the pain of this divorce, and moved on, on my own.
Of course you CAN back out but do you want to? What is the difference if you use a mediator or an attorney? It's still a means to an end, isn't it?
lwb - what do YOU want? I think you are right.. there does come a time.. Is now the time for you to make a decision? Only you know the answer to that question.
I do know that it's all so darn hard.. It's hard to be in limbo but it's also hard to see the end almost here..
Karen