Today has been such a busy day! My goodness, barely had time to sit down and breathe! The school year is coming to an end (2 more weeks) and it seems like there is 100 different things that need to be done to wrap things up.
This morning when I got my cell phone out of my purse, I saw that H had TMed me another "Hi Sara" message at about 9:30pm the previous night. I guess I didn't hear my phone going off. So I TMed him a "morning morning" message which he promptly messaged me back "good morning Sara." Somehow I think he just might be missing me a little bit.
If it wasn't so early in the seperation, I would ask him if he'd like to see Narnia with me tomorrow (going with the church fell through). But I don't think I am at that stage, so I am going alone.
Tonight I am going to see a community theatre play with my mom. She bought me season tickets this past Christmas and this is our last play. They have been SO good (this is the group that I act with sometimes). I also get dinner out of the deal. So I won't be home tonight....talk to you all later.
Sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
Have a good evening. I am glad you are staying busy.
Isn't it amazing how much a little NC can drive the WAS crazy? Tehehe. I'm mean. Oh well. Keep the mystery up, don't always pick up or respond right away. A little bit of harmless wondering will only make him appreciate what he's losing (I say harmless because you aren't out dating or anything).
(((Sara))) have fun!
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
I have an hour before the play, so I came home to get the mail. There is a letter from the college H is going to start up soon, so I think it might be important so I call him. It isn't anything. But I talk to H and still try to light and happy, but the conversation got a little not so happy.
I tell him about how my Grandma isn't doing well etc. He says how he needs to come and get some stuff. I say that I know but need to know when. He says he doesn't know because he is "so busy." I say something about how he sounds like getting his stuff is so urgent, but can't find a time so I am not sure what to tell him. He says that he can come by when he is off work tomorrow (between 3:30-4:00). Then he says how that might be a conflict. I say that it isn't for me. He said that he thought it would be. I say something about how I am no longer concerned about where he is all night and I don't mind if he comes to get his stuff. Then he asks me if I am sleeping in the bed. I say, of course I am, why would I? He said that he thought I had a problem doing that. I said I only had a problem when he was at home.
Some more meaningless talk and he says, "are you going to be home tomorrow at 4?" I say that I was going to see a movie that night, but would be home then. Wanted to know if I was going to work out. I said that I wasn't on Friday since my mom is out of town. Then I told him that I had a play to go to and needed to get going (I thought I had remembered that from the DB book...to end the conversation first). I told him to have a nice night. He sounded sad and said, "yeah, sure. I'll see you tomorrow around 4."
So...I am a little nervous. The first time seeing H since he left. It has been about a week since I last saw him. Any advice as to what to say? How to I act? I know not to ask him any questions about the OW or where he is staying (although I really would like to knkow).
Sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
(((Sara))) Just be professional, like you would with a student's parents. Be friendly, but not affectionate or romantic. I think that also gives you guidelines for questions - you can ask general things, how was your day or whatever, but nothing very personal. If he volunteers it, fine, if not, fine.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
And Sara, look good too. Look good so you feel good!
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09
Thanks everyone. I see him in about an hour and I am getting a little nervous. I am seeing him straight from work, so I don't have time to look really nice, but I look alright. I did clean up the house and it looks good.
I will just be friendly and I know not to ask him any of the 100 questions running around in my head.
OW1 Tmed me today. She just said something like "hi...how are you doing? Haven't heard from you in awhile." I really wonder if he is back with her. I need to be okay with the fact that he might be and I will never know the truth.
Alright...I have to talk to my prinicpal about something that I don't want to talk about and then with my H. Then....off to see a movie by myself.
Sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
I can't believe that OW texted you today with that!! I mean really that blows my mind. I think that is weird. Did you know her before? I would not send her anything back. Maybe she is fishing for info, don't tell her anything.
Good luck today with H. It is really hard not to ask those questions, but I know you can do it!
Keep the mystery up, don't always pick up or respond right away. A little bit of harmless wondering will only make him appreciate what he's losing (I say harmless because you aren't out dating or anything).