Beauty is still holding on ths site and kids..

[BEAUTYandWAH]

Today's thoughts....
I had time to think about my situation today. What do I want? That is my question. And the answer is stable marriage... that is the only thing I want. I want his commitment to work on us. No less than that. If he continue to be 'I love you but I am not in love with you' and 'i want to be your best friend', I think I have to give up. So I will have to show him what the boundry is if he choose not to work on M. So, today I made a difficult dicision. I told him that I will not go to family reunion as his friend. That's only thing I texted him. He refused to talk to me right now.

I would love to go to the reunion, be with him and his family. I do feel like if we go to the trip, something postive may come up between us. At the same time, I don't think a trip can make him to commit to relationship.

Really confused (as usual)
Beauty

[girlfromipanema]

Beauty,

It's been so long since you've updated. I'm hoping that's a good sign. Please let us know how you and your darling kids are doing.

[BEAUTYandWAH]

Hi girl!
Thank you for check in with my thread.. I have been having difficult time.. but here is my outcome..

I deserve more than what he gives me. I had enough.. No money from him, little support of parenting... When I was sick, I really needed to have time off, he still did not help me... I figured he will continue to be like this and I felt.. " I HAD ENOUGH" So, I told him I will file for divorce and I know things will change. Better or worse.. I don't know but things will change.

Beauty...

[JoieDeVivre]

Beauty,
Those who have been through this crap all say you know when you reach the end of your rope. I'm sorry to hear that you've reached that point, but can hold your head up high at your efforts. And, don't forget, it ain't over till it's over. Perhaps by completely dropping the rope and walking away, your H will start running after it. If that does happen, it's up to you as to whether you want to pick up what's left or not.

Did he have anything to say when you told him you were going to file?

(((( HUGS ))))

Joie

[girlfromipanema]

Beauty,

Thanks for updating.

I'm sorry your husband continues to disappoint you (and your children).

Know that you are a lovely woman and wonderful mother. Have you been able to talk to your family about this?

(((((((((((((((Beauty))))))))))))))