Shades, You are truly a success story in your own right. You may not have saved your marriage, but you saved yourself and your children.
You sound grounded in a far better place than when you first arrived here. Congratulations on the new position! You've come a long way, survived and have come back to share w/the readers. Life doesn't always end up the way we want it, but sometimes, the curve ball may give us something more to think about and eventually enjoy and find happiness w/ourselves and our situations once again.
