I know that does not make it all okay, but I want her to get perspective & realize that D is a bad option. I think part of this is she is going thru MLC now. She is being selfish and thinks she has done things to help our R. If she looks in the mirror I don't think she has.
My H is going through MLC also. He definitely went through the anger stage and now I think he's in the Replay stage; he's selfish & doesn't want responsibilities, etc. Have you gone through the MLC resource threads?? I've found them useful anyway. I don't know from what I've read I think they always come through MLC (after a year or two) but may or may not come back to the marriage at the end. And I'm trying to accept that as much as I can. Plus, I do think I'm probably a lot harder to resist now than I used to be anyway!!! He has to fight his attraction to me probably almost constantly!!! Karen
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