thanks for being my crying shoulder everyone))))))))))))))) I was one min. from calling him and tell him how crappy I was feeling andwhy, and it would've been the same crap "well, you need to talk to your T about it", and he would've been right, as OT puts it , it is like a victim seeking comfort from its abuser.. totally useless
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Oh man have I ever been there. Funny how they can so easily pawn us off as the one with the problem and take absolutely no responsibility for what they've done. My head used to spin because I couldn't wrap my brain around that, but I've seen the same scenario so many times now that I just think it's all part of their illness. Oh and the victim seeking comfort from the abuser...my therapist said that as well. It was one of the few comparisons that stuck with me. When I would get the urge to call, either just to hear his voice or to try to "break through" , I would repeat that in my head over and over again until the feeling passed.
You did good cat. Can you recognize what a strong person you have become?
