I certainly advocate exerything that Cinders has said, I have had several forced breaks from the board.
The board can easily become your life, at the beginning this can be of help to our recovery, but it constantly focuses our attention on our situations.
There is still not a day goes by that I do not think of my wife, my son, my family, and what might have been.
The break though puts things into perspective, it allows us to take the focus away from the mess and onto ourselves. To recover.
But that was the stage as to where I am, and I am pleased that Cinders has got to that stage. We will all get there eventually and start healing, and become the people we were.
At the time I needed the board, I needed the friendships forged. I remember reading the board all day at work, all night at home, read all the oldposts. It became too much.
We latch on to the snippets of information that gives us hope.
Its a phase, they will wake up oneday. So we wait, and wait and wait some more. All the time focusing our attention on them.
