After 3 long years, H is home - II

[Sugar and Spice]

GF the your heart is in the right place and you can't fault someone for that. Next time if he says don't do it, don't. He is a big boy and let him act like one.

My way of doing things are just "wrong" in his eyes. Example: Today. When leaving to pick up my sons from school, I like to go early. I will leave the house 20 - 30 minutes before they get out. The school is only 5 minutes away, but this is my routine. I like to get there before the parking lot gets crowded (exiting is ALWAYS easier than entering ). I will read a book or just watch over S3 while he plays with his toys or is on the playground until school's out for the day. Seems alright, doesn't it?

Well, H doesn't think it is. "OMG! You really have to go this early?!!! School doesn't get out for another 20(+) minutes! It's such a f***ing waste of time!"

*Sigh*....I see his point, but when is enough enough? I think I'm willing and CAN accept how he is....Why can't he try to do the same with/for me? Why do I feel like I have to change nearly everything to make him somewhat happy, that the way I do things is "ridiculous", "stupid", "wrong", "a waste of time"?

After his LOUD, uncaring remark, I said to him CALMLY, "I'm sorry if you don't agree with it, but this is what I have always done. It's my routine." Then I added (which I probably shouldn't have), "When will you realize that everything isn't going to always happen your way?" With his eyebrows scrunched together, he said, "It's a waste of time."

IMHO...you really don't need to justify you actions. If you want to leave 3 hours early, thats your business. How does this really affect him in the Grand Scheme of things...it doesn't. If he doesn't like how you do it, then you could always sweetly ask if he would like to take over this task for you, if not...he can keep his opinions about when/how you do it to himself!

What is it they say about opinions? They are like a$$holes, everyone has one!

Sorry for my little rant, but my H does the same thing and its usually his way of venting his frustration about something going on in his world, but instead of owning that and not being a baby, it gets taken out on someone else....GRRRRRR!!! I'm frustrated for you. You can either learn to suck it up, or wait and see if it changes.

((((GF)))) thanks for all of your wise advice on my thread. No crumbs for you either!