Does H give any example of what he is doing to improve the M? Is he just figuring that not leaving is all he has to do? What kind of response does he give?
I'm not saying I have the answers, or am a success story in this matter, but I'm getting very agitated about "luke warm" spouses. From discussions with my W, I found out that she was leaving things around that she knew would anger me, so that I would bring up the subject or initiate things that she was too chicken to do so. In the end she finally did step up and do so. I was not going to give her a free ride, or come off as the bad guy.
As things come more and more to light, many of our friends are kind of backing away from W and her actions. Some of them don't even want to be at the house any more. We use to have quite a few events at our house, not even the teenagers are here as much any more.
I hope H is giving you some solid answers and hopefully actions soon.
