Bring on the Rain - Part 2

[fightingirish]

sues,

He's a lost soul.. the song issue is really pathetic.... It just shows how much he puts into everything and anything he does.

You are doing swimmingly... Definately go to your parents for the wkend, it will be good to get a way from the house.

((((hugs)))

tal

[LL44]

Go to your parents!!! Enjoy!!

Life insurance? Hmm, I would move it to your parents or sister, maybe with a specification in your will how it should be spent.

The song. What a fool. I love that you unemotionally called him out on it, then walked away. Love it.

[JoieDeVivre]

As far as the song, well, look at it this way. This just shows exactly how UN-special OW is, that she is not even worth the effort of finding a new song for her. Pretty darned romantic, eh?

Good one, Rob!

I have no idea if my H remembers what song we first danced to at our wedding. It seems like such a sappy song now that while I still have a small liking for it, cause we danced to it, it doesn't much matter now. (Endless Love)

Hope your D4 feels better soon (and you get some sleep).

[Rob1231]

Good one, Rob!

I have no idea if my H remembers what song we first danced to at our wedding. It seems like such a sappy song now that while I still have a small liking for it, cause we danced to it, it doesn't much matter now. (Endless Love)

Ha! Joie, I think I can out-sappy you. That big, memorable song from when W and I were in our "romantic comedy montage" stage of dating...?

"Happy to Be Stuck with You" by Huey Lewis and the News.

[JoieDeVivre]

Rob,
I think you did out-sappy me. LMAO!!!

Sue, you had better taste than Rob and I!

[SueS]

Hi there!

Joie & Rob- The only reason I didn't out-sappy you on the song was the time you got married. Trust me, I'm sure if I'd been married as long, I'd have the same songs!

OW's H called me yesterday. He wanted to see how I'm doing & if I might know anything he doesn't. I really don't. He told me that OW is hinting that the BIG change will come in June. She's also hinted that my H is facilitating the entire move and has saved money for the deposit, rent...etc. All the while he can't keep up with his own child's daycare payment! So, so much for H's lie about him living with his buddy for a while. I feel for OW's H, as OW has also talked as if she's just going to walk in one day, start packing, tell her kids to pack up & take them to a new home with a stranger.....with no warning. OW's H is the only real support system their kids have known the past 2 years. OW's work schedule & selfish attitude has seen to that. The part I see as very humorous is that OW has told her H that she wants her kids to see how two people can live together, be happy, get along, love each other and how they call all be a big happy family unit!!! Yes, she honestly believes that she will get all that with my H. As most of you have read my story through these many months know, you'd agree that my H is probably not capable of making that type of a turnaround, at least not at the drop of a hat. It would take counseling & a lot more patience than he has to be able to do that. OW's H and I are both very confused as to why there's still so much secrecy. We both know that our S's are leaving us. The least they could do is be respectful and give us some warning as to what they're planning. It's not just them, this involves our kids.

D4 seems to be feeling better. I love watching her sleep. She looks so peaceful.

H called me from work last night and asked what my plans were for the weekend. He may golf on Sunday, but made me aware that he'd be going to the grocery store tonight after work. I asked about Saturday & he told me that he thought he'd go through some closets. I said....Well then maybe that's a good time for us to start going through things and getting things settled. H was silent. It seems that any time I approach the subject he avoids it. I then told him that I was planning on going home next weekend. He wanted to know why. I just told him to see my family. He talked to D4 and then she hung up the phone. She told me that daddy wanted to talk to me so I called him back. It was odd, as he said....Oh, I just wanted to let you know that you can call me at work tomorrow if you need anything from the store. I just said, okay, thank you. H went out last night. I got up with D4 at 11:30 & 12:30 and he wasn't home. Not sure what time he did get home. Oh, let's add that H mentioned to me last night that he wished our daycare director would give us ANOTHER 2 week break by allowing D4 to stay with my family....AGAIN. Unbelievable!!

I talked to my sister last night and she agreed to be my life insurance beneficiary. That gives me peace of mind, as I know she'd do what is absolutely best for D4.

Well, I best be getting busy.

Have a good one everybody!!

SueS

[Sara]

OW is jumping from a nice home into the fire with your H. But she's a dumbass in dreamland, and will have earned what she gets.

[Yoyowife]

Sues,
Be sure to document the things that OW's H told you while it's fresh on you mind. I don't know if it could have any bearing on your settlement, but I don't think it could hurt having this info with dates, etc.

I agree with everyone else your H is lost. I think it won't take long for your H and the OW to acknowledge that the grass in not greener. Like Theo would says, it will be full of sewage!

By the way how many children does the OW have? It doesn't sound like your husband has much patience. I think this could be a problem. Have you ever noticed that other people's kids get on your nerves a lot more than your own?

Have a wonderful weekend with your parents. It will be nice to be with the ones that love you unconditionally during this time.

Hugs, Yoyo

[SueS]

Hi-

Sara- Yes, OW is jumping into the fire. I told a friend yesterday that I'm glad I'm the one stepping away. Yes, I'll still be involved because of D4, but not to the extent that H, OW & OW's H will be.

Yoyo- OW has 4 kids. The oldest is a 13-year old girl, two boys in the middle & then a 5-year old girl. H loves D4, but does not always have the patience for her. Imagine 4 kids that are not your own.....4 kids that know you're the reason mommy left daddy!! Oh, and 4 kids now seeing mommy in bed with another man!

So, H continues to do his same pattern. Sue starts to push away, H tries to pull her back just enough to keep her pacified. I called H to let him know that a check we'd been waiting for had gone into our account. He asked if I'd like to get movies tonight and then since neither of us have anything going on tomorrow, if D4 and I would like to go out for lunch & just spend the day together!! AMAZING. I contiunue to do these "family days" for D4's sake, but my eyes are wide open to what I see as H's motives for doing this. He's made me aware that he thinks I could make our split very messy if I wanted to. I think he wants to keep my as happy as he can in this twisted life of ours so I won't make it messy. As bad as my H has been, I also believe that somewhere in there H still has a little bit of love for me. It pops up from time to time. Oh yeah, I know, it will subside again next week. I wonder at times too, if H feels he's taken things with OW so far that he can't turn back. He's promised her too many things to be able to back out on her now. I still want to move on with my life, but when H asks to do "family" things, he shows that he's confused and very messed up.

SueS

[fightingirish]

yoyo... you were reading my mind, I was just going to say that about documenting everything, it certainly can't hurt.

as far as the OW saying that they will be a happy unit...AHHHHHHH what an idiot!!!!! Let her get what she gives... what comes around goes around...

sues.. you are so far better off without him, he just hasn't seen the light, and you can't wait for him to come out of the dark, its not fair to you or you D4...

Have a great time away.. you will come back refreshed after being with family.

*hugs*