Thanks Addie.

Last night went well. I took the kids out for GAL type stuff and was asked to pick up something by the W (which I did) even got a Thank You. She was almost human last night and even called me honey and dear... Weird. I escaped to bed early and avoided any D/R talks. She is still fuming at times but seems to be leveling off.

I avoided her as much as possible and was very calm when we did speak - even validated a little. The anger seems to stem from the fact that the D has turned out to be:
1. Harder to get done than she planned.
2. More expensive than she planned,
3. Taking longer than she planned.
4. Having more impact on the kids than she planned.
5. Will not result in the settlement (custody/$$/etc) that she planned.

I find it hard to really develop any friendship when she is so angry about the D process. It seems best just to keep my distance and hope for calmer seas. I have a coaching session today and hopefully I can get guidance. My Pastor thinks that this is good because the anger shows that she is seeing the reality of the D and that it is not going to be a good situation for her post D. He thinks that she may come back based on that realization. I dont think it will be that easy. Her pride and her cheerleaders wont let that happen.

Does anyone have input on how I get the anger over the D process to go away?