Ok, nocode, time to back away from W. Give her space to make herself miserable instead of you. You can't do anything right. She says this, but she knows differently. She has to make you the enemy to justify her behavior. I truly believe her cruelty towards you will soften as time goes on.
Hi Nocode! I agree with everything LWB said. I was reading in a library book yesterday something on "How to influence people" or something like that, that people will often not like someone they have hurt or are hurting, because if they didn't do that they would have to see themselves as bad people or whatever. I really see my H trying to do that constantly, just trying to pick fights or arguments a lot, and trying to get me upset, b/c I think it's much easier for them when we are fighting to do the kind of bad behaviors they are doing.
I really believe that, so try not to take what H says seriously (although I'm not always successful of course ) b/c I understand what he is trying to do to make it easier to live with himself! I kind of think that no matter how hard H tries, he's gotta be feeling like a jerk and will continue to do so. I think your W is kind of doing the same thing, and in time will probably realize it more and more. Karen
) b/c I understand what he is trying to do to make it easier to live with himself! I kind of think that no matter how hard H tries, he's gotta be feeling like a jerk and will continue to do so. I think your W is kind of doing the same thing, and in time will probably realize it more and more. Karen
