Yes, you are being too nice I have to agree! I do that as well though--I am too nice after my H has treated me horribly and continues to do so. It's against my nature to not be nice to anyone, but I think some of our spouses see being nice as weakness (well mine does anyway), so I am trying to be more dark and detached and not as nice, nice, nice to him!!! I was the one (my worst moment ever!) that stayed up half the night washing my H's laundry for a weekend trip with the OW a few months ago!!! That was horrible and I would never do that again!!! But just shows I get the award for the worst at that (a dubious honor of course)!!! Karen
I do that as well though--I am too nice after my H has treated me horribly and continues to do so. It's against my nature to not be nice to anyone, but I think some of our spouses see being nice as weakness (well mine does anyway), so I am trying to be more dark and detached and not as nice, nice, nice to him!!! I was the one (my worst moment ever!) that stayed up half the night washing my H's laundry for a weekend trip with the OW a few months ago!!! That was horrible and I would never do that again!!! But just shows I get the award for the worst at that (a dubious honor of course)!!! 
Karen