While it's nice to have people to do things with, IMO it's better to do them alone than do nothing. I know it's uncomfortable for some, but think of it as a chance to develop that ability.
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I don't want my presence to keep them apart but then again it would be his problem wouldn't it? I am his mom and I deserve to be with him whenever I want don't I? I am the one who takes care of him, does everything for him and with him and H walked away from him so doesn't get to dictate when he sees him, right? RIGHT!
Bottom line for me here is who pays the price and the answer I see is your S13. Yes, your H walked away and you should be able to watch your S13 in his class etc. If you really think your presence is keeping your H away perhaps you could just let him go with H sometimes. I know it sux, but your son is the one who will loose out in this and if your H isn't able to see you right now for whatever reason, then perhaps just some time will make that easier. This doesn't mean you have to have it all be last minute. Call or text him with a schedule you work out. See how that goes. Have a backup plan in case he doesn't show and then if necessary you can say this isn't working yadda yadda yadda. It's probably really tough for him to see you and while it would be awful for him not to see his S13 behind that, how often have you heard of that happening? It's just a risk I wouldn't want. Don't want to come off as being harsh, just my 2 cents.
