You have been an amazing inspiration to me. It's hard for me to imagine that h will ever change his mind because he seems so hell-bent on this "new" life. Just went through sallym's post (thanks nik) and it was facinating, like reading my own story (except for h wanting to come back).
I really do think affairs turn these people into someone else. my therapist told me that even though they act "fine" with what they are doing, inside they are terribly conflicted, esp. when there are children involved. that's why they shut out people from their "old" life. Makes sense. I just don't know who he is right now.
what's interesting though is he is still taking care of (I don't even have to ask) all things related to the house, etc. like he hired a kid down the street to do the lawn (I didn't know he did this), he dealt with insurance company for a very minor accident I was in. He payed for the bill (without me even knowing) on the old volvo I had to have towed. So wierd. I don't know if it's a guilt thing or what.
