Torn between hope and anger

[lise]

Oh, you give such good advice! -

-It's a hard one thats for sure, but you set your personal emotions aside and step into your business suit. If your H gets angry with you, simply say "I'm sorry you feel that way".-

That's exactly what I need to do, but it is so hard to just be business like with someone I want to be emotionally connected to. I see that it is not going to be possible or safe to hold on to my perception of H as a loving, caring partner to me anymore. I was trying to see him that way, as just a very confused friend, but the shock of his self-centeredness has continued to throw me off balance. The hardest thing is that he can't even acknowledge his own tunnel vision right now. He thinks the suggestions he is making about our sons' schooling is in their benefit, but he his viewpoint is so skewed. I have to do battle just to make sure he doesn't ruin our kids' lives at the same time he is ruining his own.