After 3 long years, H is home - II

[ACJ]

Ok......but I'm gonna do it anyway. Maybe it'll at least get me a "thank you" and make me feel like I actually did something good

STOP!
It seems to me from what you have written the the one thing that is a common complaint between you and your H is that neither of you listen to the other. So IMHO let the washing stay there on the floor. SHOW him you are listening AND retaining the information.

I had a similar experience when my H first left. For about the first 2-3 months he still came home to do his washing. I offered to do it for him but he said he wanted to do it. One day he had put the washing in the machine and then gone to work whilst the machine was still in progress. So when I came home from work I put it into the tumble drier (as my H doesn't like clothes that have been dried outside on the line like I do) and then ironed it all (as I was doing ironing anyway). He went absolutely ballistic. I hadn't ironed his new jeans in exactly the way he wanted them ironing (and apparently I never had ironed how he wanted me too ). Consequently he never brought his washing round anymore and I lost yet another way to interact with him.

I'm just reading 'Why men love bitches' and it even refers to not doing your man's laundry in there