WAW's-When does the anger subside???????

[SirPrizeMe]

Hey! Cool, glad something shook loose. I feel like I helped a little.

I totally get what you are saying about using your anger as a reminder.

For me Anger is a feeling like extreme frustration. I am stimulated to do something, but either I Cannot figure out the right thing to do to address my stress, or the thing I tried to do isn't working, etc etc. Anger is panic+frustration to me. And so in the end it doesn't help me.

It helps me to feel offended and hurt and remember the stuff that happened; that's what protects me from touching the hot stove next time. But do I need to stay angry about the hot stove? Nah. Sure I was angry when it happened, and it comes back from time to time. But the anger doesn't get me anywhere. it's a sign I feel powerless or incapable of making a change.

This is just me talking here, not suggesting this is the way anyone else should think of it.