PH, Thanks for telling me about what you leaned from the psychologist. It does make sense. I wrote my H a letter too & gave it to him on Jan. 7, 2008. I told him that it was something I wanted him to read all the way (letter was long)& I told him no rebuttal necessary. I had to write it down b/c he could tell me how lonely & unhappy he had been for years (didn't show it, in fact right the opposite) but he would never let me talk. One night he really calmly told me a whole bunch of stuff but when it came my turn to talk, he was tired & had to go to bed. Or other times he would have to just get out of here, he couldn't talk about our R or anything of the past.
I know he read the letter, in there I told him the OW had been M at least 3 times & also for her to chase after a M man, what did that say about her & what did that say about him & how he felt about W like her. I don't think he knew at that time she had been married that many times (I had report run on her). Then he found out a couple of days later that we were going to mediation & it would cost 900.00 per hour, he was mad & cussed me out. He apologized but it wasn't until 3 days later.
Dreams can tell a lot & maybe it is telling you something. Hold on!!
Let us know how it goes when you read him the letter.
