Okay....again, I know I am old fashion, but I just don't get the emailing to your spouse at work! Why not talk to her at home? I don't get it!! Especially, if she feels bombarded by all her load at the office.....why add to it by sending more emails for her to read? I guess I can identify with her b/c it sounds like my job stress. So, I have to ask you if that is an hidden desire or act to pursue her and making the contact, etc. through an excuse of emailing about some darn insurance stuff (business) that should be discussed at home? Plus, you are wanting to start adding more and sending funny things, etc. Be careful! You will start sliding backwards real easy. I know you say this is not often, but please understand how she sees it. If it is adding pressure to her day......you are not going to come out ahead in the process. I understand if some business things can't wait, but don't use it as an excuse to contact her through email. I hope I have not confussed you b/c I think I may have told you in the past that if you do email her....keep it light, etc., which you seem to be doing and that part is good. However, does it add pressure to her and are you finding excuses? Be honest with yourself.

STAY AWAY FROM "B". I know this kind of woman! She will use every excuse to pull you into her web. Of course, it always is for a mutual friend, or some other "innocent" stitch. There will be innocent lunches and other things until you are in a full blown EA....or more. You are asking for trouble, mister, and if your W finds out....you might as well start packing your bags. Are you crazy or is men just this blind to the ways of the female?

Anyway, to change the subject.......I wanted to say something about the D6 and the bed wetting. We went through this with our D and I handled it all the wrong ways. I even slept with her a time or two to see if she even woke up when she peed in the bed....and she didn't. She slept so sound that it didn't even phase her when she soaked herself. I hope that you have taken her to the doctor b/c sometimes it could be the the sign of something else to come.....but hopefully not and usually not. I think there may even be a chance of an inherited thing....don't know that, just have wondered b/c my H did that until he was a big kid. They finally outgrow it, but whatever you do...please don't scold her in your frustration of having to get up in the night and change out the bedding. She can't help it and, as you could tell, she is becoming very sensitive about it. Poor little thing......I hate it for her. She will be too self conscious about sleep over with friends. Can the doctor give her medication for this? Have you tried the special "panties" for bed wetters? I know this doesn't have anything to do with DBing, but it just kind of hit home and my heart goes out for her. Come to think of it....anything with our family has to do with DBing, doesn't it? B/c it affects our R with our spouse.

About the nephew living in the house.....that hit home too. We have been down that road with several different relatives (and some not relatives) living in the house with us. In fact, we probably have had a total of maybe 2 years alone....just the two of us in our 42 years together. It does get old and it does put some pressure on the R. If there are "other" problems that the nephew has.....that really causes more stress. We have been there. I know and I understand.

Just my thoughts for the evening.

Take care,

Sandi

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!