Still Tryin's 2nd piecing

[S.T. _I Made It!]

I did give her the DR book, but I know she didn't really READ it. She's starting to listen to me now though. I know that she tried to do what I said before, but she wouldn't try long enough. It would be a week maybe, and then she'd say nothing changes. Well, we all know 1 week is nothing, so I hope she really stays focussed this time.


I have a question for all.

her H has a daughter that they take custody of every other week. What should she do? The mother is not a great mother and they were even in the plans of trying to get full custody. Right now, he hasn't been to work in 3 days (been drunk), a job our dad got him on a couple weeks ago.

There is so much junk involved, and I won't go thru it all, but basically I told her she needs to.

1. Do the 3 DB things
2. Don't move out of the house (they just built it a year ago)
3. Plan on not getting any money from him and try to figure out making things work w/o him, just in case.
4. talk to an attorney
5. Treat H like a roomate, don't be rude, but don't try to be overly nice either. don't initiate contact unless it's necessary .
6. Start working on yourself.


She's really confused what to do with the step daughter. She doesn't want to cause confusion for her and make things messed up for her, she already has issues from how things are already. I thought that she should she continue the normal routine, but maybe advise H in a calm confident way that you will not be there at these times and that it will be his responsibility to take care of his child such and such.

I really didn't have advice that I felt confident about. What does everyone else think?