I know he won't see them as concessions of defeat, you are so right on the mark there. I do feel that now is the real deal, that all that has become before this was like a rehearsal. Hopefully I know my character well and it is just become my second nature.
H just came and picked up the kids. Greeted me with a tight hug. He hung around for a little (the kids and I were picking cherries when he arrived) and when they left I asked if he wanted help with his things; he said no. He had the card in his hands.
The kids almost cried after fighting over who carried which suitcase. We hugged goodbye and I tried my best to keep it together. When H hugged me goodbye, a few tears slipped from my eyes. It was appropriately sad and not crazy, angry sad so I don't think it mattered, even though we are supposed to act like we're together and happy 24/7. Luckily I will see them in 14 hours, not like I'm counting or anything!
I guess for real I am now preparing for the worst and hoping for the best.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09