My h did the same thing, he loved our mc when she was making me take responsibility, yet when the finger pointing turned to him, all of a sudden he thought she was two-faced, and didn't want to go back.
Go find another counselor. Make sure you find one that is pro-marriage, and get a chance to explain to them why you've left your last c. That way, they can be more gentle with your wife in the beginning. BUT, to get any progress, she's going to have to look in the mirror with the counselor's guidance. Maybe hearing it again, she'll be more open to listen.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
