You are making a lot of sense. And it sounds like you really understand a lot about how you got here. So, that's got to be a good thing.
You also seem to understand that he is going through something that you can't help him with, so that's another good thing.
I'm thinking the thing you need to do now is to take better care of you. Get a Life, as they say. Work on your outlook, so that instead of acting happy, you'll be happy. It will help to attract him back to you.
