Maybe Last Thread in Separating, Found DB 2 Late

[houndfan]

Well, now you know... I think we all have to make it to this undefined point of... I can't even describe it. Essentially it is that point of enlightenment that you know what can become of your life. Divorce is the only "real" option that our S see in their mess. And as I have said all along, we too need to see that as an option and play from that angle.

I think that you have reclaimed some of yourself in your recent posts. It is to be determined if you have reclaimed your marriage but I can assure you that once I got to that point in my S that I was planning and preparing for D the tide seemed to change slightly at first and the very dramatically.

Once I accepted the most possible outcome of my sitch that outcome became more unlikely. Read back to some of the exchanges that you and I have had and some that I have had with others on the board and I think you will see the pattern.

In your case, me thinks that you needed to "give back" to H. Accept that you may have been critical etc. Well you gave, right? You changed, you did what you said you were going to do and the outcome changed little. So, acceptace of the outcome is where you are. Convos with the Lawyer, etc etc. He will see your actions not as concession of defeat if you will but he too will see that you have made the steps to prepare your life.

I am rambling here, but end of the day acceptance of the most likely outcome of our situations is really step 1 in any of this. Me thinks that you have blown down the dam and will see some progress.

Remember just prior to our breakthrough W was assaulting me with the vacuum and told me very matter of factly that it was over and I was no longer welcome in our home... I moved home for good 3 weeks later...

Accept the most likely outcome of your situation and prepare with that outcome in mind, it may change, it may not....

Good luck!