Cagz is really moving ahead Wierd...

[cagzmom]

I have to learn to be ok with my "singleness." Wierd.

[cagzmom]

^^

[TRUSTING]

Just wanted to say hi and let you know how much I appreciate your support on my sitch. You are always so supportive and positive.

[cagzmom]

Thanks T. You have encouraged me much. Looks like my D is just around the corner. (i believe he is putting in the papers with the final stuff from mediation.) it is what it is....i can't change him or motivate him. whenever he talks to me he cries----man wouldn't it be cool if he like meant it- went to figure himself out and wow woke up and was a new man?????????? ok ok i know that is like a few years away. =( and me? jsut keep swimmin' just keep swimmin.

[cagzmom]

H's lawyer sent in the divorce papers with the settlement.
Sad -

[cagzmom]

^^

[Jeanette1120]

Sorry Cagz,

But some men/women need to take it to the very end before the ramifications start setting in.

You'll be ok sweetie!

Just look at how much you've grown and accomplished since you've arrived!!

Big (((HUGS)))

Jeanette

[tpaschal]

H's lawyer sent in the divorce papers with the settlement.
Sad -

Cagz,

It is very sad, and I am so sorry. So what happens now?

And how are you doing?


TP

[cagzmom]

Now within a month or two I will be divorced. We went through all the settlement garbage- and this is just "The end". It is wierd because he is acting so much nicer now. I dont know he is never really mean...I feel like he is relieved..however he said he feels like it is just one more "failure" for him.

he was done a long time ago.

Whats next for me? I dont know. Grieving the loss of my marriage hopes and dreams now. When i am honest I am not greiving the loss of him -- though i do miss my H the one i loved. It is a wierd place to be and so very hard when others who love you are like..."GOOD its over.." it is just D** hard.

I failed -lost - thats how i feel.

[TRUSTING]

Cagz,

You did not fail my dear.
Your H failed himself.
I remember being at your stage in the journey. It is painful. Facing the big divorce does not even seem real.
My ex had to go through with it. He had to relive his childhood when his parents divorced.
You are not the cause of the divorce.
Divorce does not mean the end.
Look at my ex and all that he is doing.
My ex cried all the time too. It was so pathetic and sad.
Please do not feel you are alone in this. Let him spin and spin.
Do not get sucked into his divorce drama.