Confused no longer - Give me the strength

[Puppy Dog Tails]

SW,

Keep in mind, I'm not always in the majority opinion around here.

That being said, I think "things going well" and "flirting in response to him" are good things ONLY if he's no longer in contact with the OW. If he's still in contact with her, your making those supplicating moves back towards him are only going to enable him to cake-eat, in my opinion.

Who says HE gets to have all the time he wants to "decide" if he wants you?? Go semi-dark on him, and stop being so nice. Let him miss you. DETACH!!!!

Puppy

Actually Puppy I've come to appreciate & agree with most of your advice you know!!! I actually have ?s for you about this (if you don't mind answering). Since I was depressed you know last year, I kind of think I am practicing a 180 though by acting happy and a little bit friendly for brief periods when I see H. But I basically work on avoiding him whenever possible, when he is at home I am either gone or I'll go upstairs when he's downstairs or go to bed or whatever.

I also have been better about just emailing him re: kids and things I have to (like I broke down & emailed H today his friend the contractor hasn't shown up to finish the tub yet and it's been almost a week since he's been here!). Am I doing this the right way or do you have any suggestions? The last week or 2 he started calling & emailing me more, but he was on a trip the last few days & I've had no emails or calls. (He said it was for work but the fact that I've had no contact from him makes me think OW was prob. on the trip with him). Karen

Karen,

Re-post that over on your thread, and I'll try to respond tonite. I don't want to hijack Snow White's, and I gotta scoot for my son's baseball game. I'm the COACH, ya know!!! LOL

Puppy