Originally Posted By: darboyd5
I know I know HOW to do all of it, I'm saying I don't know how (emotionally, mentally, whatever) to do it.


I can’t help wondering if the root of the problem is here.

Dar, you know it is best that you go NC with your H. better for him, it gives him room to breath, heal and maybe even miss you. It is better for you too, to get emotionally strong. It is better for your child as she has her mother’s full time attention rather than a mum worrying about her dad.

You know this and yet you still keep chasing him and contacting him.

I am wondering if you just can’t help yourself.


You know your behaviour isn’t healthy.

It seems like you are trying to control his life instead of your own. Make him love you and so then you won’t have to look at your self and the things that you may have done wrong.

Could you be addicted to your H?





Nutty.


Be The Greener Grass.


Me 40
H 42
Son 11
Married 15 years.
Left May 2006 after gambling spree
I had EA August 2006
OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!)
I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.