Sandi's Here in Piecing from Almost WAW

[Yoyowife]

Sandi,
I've been reading your replies to Whatdidido's thread. I posed some questions to her. You probably have answered these questions before and I will find time to go back and read your thread, but if you could answer these questions you would be helping many people out. These quetions are taken from the infidelity thread so if it might be helpful if you answered the questions on both forums. Thanks so much for your eyeopening input!

I have a question for you. Before you decided to try to work things out with your H what were your feelings on any attempt of reconciliation with your H? So many different authors have different ideas. I'm going to list some of them let us all know your feelings on them.

These are from the LBS point of view:

1. They try to tell you how much they love you and you are destroying the marriage. In essence they are trying to lay a guilt trip on you.

2. The GAL method. THey are trying to be a better person not only for the WAS, but also themselves. The LBS is friendly and nice without making any demands on you. They wait for the addiction to subside. Patience is the key.

3. The tough love method. The LBS tells you that you must choose between them or the OP or they will leave.

Could you tell everyone what made you decide to go back to your H? Your point of view is important to everyone.