still need to be here at times

[Hope4us]

WDID, I haven't posted to you before but I can tell you I would KILL for my WW to have your attitude.

I've read "not just friends" and in the book it talks about how once you come clean and give your spouse all the details they want about the affair it will lose some of the luster it has.

I think if you can get to a point where you share those things with your husband that your feelings for OM will become less and less because you no longer "own" the relationship. Don't get me wrong, you still own the affair, but sharing these things with your husband (according to the book) many times shows exactly what it was to you and then your feelings fade quicker.