Thank you all so much - you guys rock. Excellent advice!!!

I think your all right about not worriing about where he moves to. My H was saying yesterday that now he is not so sure that he wants to move into there at all. So he doesnt know if he will leave the apartment he is already in until we make a move together. But if the new apartment is ready - then he may consider it. Maybe he was just testing me to see how I would react (like nutty suggested).

I also think your all right about going out and meeting "his" friends also. I do think it will make me feel a bit more at ease as to some of my questions in my mind about who he hangs with now. I will go watch him play, and I will try to be confident and smile a lot. I dont know if I should go alone though, or to bring a friend along?

Nutty,
I have always been a bit of a jealous person (mostly due to my H having some affairs before we were M). I've seen him flirt with many women in our years together & it just bugs me.
Also, This is only our third try at piecing (the first one I counted was our M itself). The first time he came back - there were many signs that he was still confused and unsure, but he tried for a few months before things fizzled out. He got really depressed and left. Then our 2nd try was just a joke (only a week) and he was still blaming me for everything. This third time seems to be so different, as though he has really had a change of heart and see's the damage he has caused with out blaming me.

I do believe he was just "half baked" the first two tries we took at reconcieling. I didnt bring up jealousy issues during either time, and he even told me when he left that I had been great to him and not making him feel bad about the stripper-girl/EA.

So this time he seems much more awakened and realistic about what has happened.

I asked H last night if he would go on a bahama's cruise/disney world vacation that i won, and he said yes. We are planning on going in August during our 8th wedding anniversary. I was so happy that he commited with out hesitation. I think this trip is well needed for us both.

Thanks again to you all. Any one have advise as to wether I should go to his gig alone or with a friend?
TIPPER