Help Me Act AS IF, Part 5

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I wish I knew how to address D11's obvious concerns under the circumstances. We wouldn't want to tell the girls anything definite until a couple of weeks before H moves out. As far as I know, he hasn't looked at apts yet, so I don't know how he could possibly make it happen by June.

If we waited til the fall (per the child psychologist's suggestion), I think we would have to say something to D11 since she knows something is up. But what would we say? If we told her we were having some problems and trying to work them out, I think, knowing her, she would make herself, and us, miserable wondering, looking for signs, etc.It seems wrong to keep in suspense, yet there are no definite plans in place.

I am SOOOOO pissed at H for doing this!!! I'm not fighting him anymore, but I am still so pissed. Yesterday we had an email exchange (very rare) and I asked him if he understood why I was upset that he had not engaged in MC with me. He replied "LMG, we did do counseling. We went for months."

That made me livid, because we did NOT go for months!! We sat in an MC's office about 5 times and H pretty much refused to participate after the first session or two. All he talked about was S from the get-go. To me that is not MC.

ugh.