His problem is with him. Not you. Keep doing what your are doing. Go treat yourself today. Go to Starbucks and flirt with someone. Watch, the guy will be putty in your hands. Just be gentle with him.
You are a super catch. Cool, tall, redhead, great mom, what's not to love?
Hi W2G, Your decision to move sounds exciting - many changes ahead for you. I can definitely sympathize with you on many levels 1)the commute 2) being in limboland. I also spend about 2 hours a day commuting to and from work everyday (although I'm off work until the end of the summer). Although my R with H is much better now, I don't see it progressing for a very long time because of some major changes we are both making. You need to do what feels right for yourself and D and hopefully H will decide to join you on the journey.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
nice to hear from you... Don't let him make you have dounts about who you are and what you deserve. Keep the sad thoughts away...
I always wanted to ask you this: How is his family? Are they close together? Are they Greek or American Greek in mentality? I am wondering if they put pressure on him that you don't know about?
"He's the one that wants me to just get separated/divorced and move on with my life." W2G, I've had so much of "move on" from my family and friends to the point they think I'm crazy to keep hoping and their support has dwindled to the point that I do not feel like talking to them at all about my 'sitch'. But if you are getting flowers, DBing along, etc. then Limboland is not such a tiring place to be for now. So I hope you can make good use of the separation time and the extra non-commute time. I now its often difficult when you feel so alone.
Me-48, W-38 M14, D11, S7 W filed D 01/07 W had to move out 06/07 Current Thread
H's Dad moved to Canada from Greece in the 70's. His Mom was born and raised in Canada but both of her parents and her eldest brother were born in Greece.
H's Dad has not said one word to him about the situation. Initially it was because he knew that he would tear his head off.. he was very angry.
H's Mom is always guilting him. It doesn't matter what I say.. there is absolutely nothing I can say that would stop her. It is who she is and my H knows it.
They both feel that H was raised to respect the vows and commitments of marriage (although they lived separately for most of my H's life due to owning businesses in different cities) and that this is a bump in the road.. but that H will come home eventually. My MIL in all actuality blames me for most of the downfall of my marriage. She said I changed.. and that I should have seen him slipping away. As you can imagine it's not a discussion I relish having with her.
"I can't be the only one that feels like no matter how amazing they are that it isn't enough."
I love that! Can you turn that around in a way that you don't feel lacking?
What keeps getting hammered in here is... only I can be responsible for my own happiness. If I'm amazing it's because I know, accept and embrace my amazingness. Damn myself for my parochial grade school choice on humility as the virtue I'd emulate. If you say you're great at humility, you aren't because you were bragging!
Be as good to yourself as you are to your daughter. Would you let her think she is not the most amazing, incredible person in the world???
And - I have so much respect and admiration for your decision to move. You are strong and corageous and the most amazing, incredible person in the world !
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
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