Man, this forum will be my conscience for sure and my accountability partner. I chickened out telling H about the letter so far. He made his list and showed me and one of the things on there was to tell him if the OM contacted me. So, I know I will tell him. Problem is he also said he wanted to know whenever I had feelings for the OM, etc. WHAT AM I SUPPOSE TO DO ABOUT THAT????!!!! I would have to tell him I think about the OM every day. So, I decided to wait so I can get some input from y'all first. When I show him the letter, it will hurt him, and I'm pretty sure he will want to read it. When he reads it he will know how deep we had become. He will then ask if I have feelings for OM, etc. I don't know what to do here. Somewhere along the line, I don't want to lie but I also do not want to sabotage any chance of us having the chance to get through this. I know my H and it took him 12 years together and an affair to finally show love to me. I do NOT want to stop this. My thought is to tell him I got the letter, that it was involved and talked about trying to win back my love and trust, I knew I had to contact OM so he knew what was up, that I told him I am back with H, and I burned the letter. Can I say that? Please?
No. Tell him the truth. Maybe he won't ask to see the letter, but if he does, show it to him. It's a slippery slope when you start hiding things from him or lying to him; that's exactly what you're trying to re-build!!!
If he asks you if you still have feelings, say "Honestly, yes, but I don't want to, and they're growing fainter and fainter every day. I look forward to the day when they're gone completely. I love you!"
