You know, I don't feel like I'm drowning anymore. I really am quite detached. Sad, yes. But like I told him on the phone last night, he's been telling me since July that he wasn't able to do this. I think it finally made it through this thick head of mine.

At the very least, I know that I now have nothing to say in this decision. I've made all the changes I could make on my side. Any other changes need to be made in tandem. I have done everything that I could have up to this point. It really is all him now.

Now I'm dark. It's not that I won't talk to him or anything, but he really needs space and now he's going to see what it's going to be like. I'm here for him, but not actively.

Last night he finally admitted that his "down" is his. It's not "ours" or "mine." He's got to figure out his happy. Unless some miracle happens, that's not going to be with me.


Me: 42/H: 37
T: 10 years/M: 8
D9, S8
Bomb: 7.23.07
Separated: 1.20.08
D Final 3.19.09
Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09

My life is good.