Yep, H has said he wanted to be with me but hasn't done one thing to change what I would've wanted. For instance, giving up chatting with women and being in touch with his other women. Yes more than one OW! In fact, many over the years. I was married to a serial cheater. So, I really don't think he would change. It's not like he had some one night stand or just one affair(not that I am making light of just one if that is what happens because one is enough). He has a problem. Anyhow, he doesn't see that changing things before being with me is what I wanted or needed so forget it. Besides, he still lies about so many things that I don't think I could ever know what is the truth from him any longer.
He has said that when I cut him off completely, he got frightened that he would never have the chance to see or speak to me again and that is what made him decide to get in contact. Personally, I think he was just scared to lose the house. LOL!
Anyhow, there is of course, tonnes to my story but the gist is when I stayed away and really let him go, that is when he reached out. That is very scary for a lot of people to do here and yeah, you could still not be together but I believe it does help with some sort of closure to have them apologize and see that it wasn't really all you after all. The blame game is so easy to fall on when you are in each other's sight. Not so easy when the crutch is gone.
