this is only the beginning..........my divorce from Dave wasn't "official" so to speak until my kids turned 18. We had several "hell" years for about 10 years.
Quoted from lissie:
I can't even talk to him about it, he will just lose it, and blame me.
I don't underestand, it has been 2 years, I thought they get better, instead of worse.
You may not want to hear this, but I'm not sure they ever get better unless they work on themselves. 23 years ago my XH left his first wife in what looks to me now like a quarter-life crisis. The M had some problems, of course, but after 11 years he just walked out, sabotaged their MC attempts, and immediately sought a bandaid in other partners and a good bit of drinking.
So, fast forward 20 years, and he did it again.
He never worked on himself after the 1st M. He never acknowledged his issues that contribute to his problems in marriages and his choices in partners.
I think they just keep repeating the same old sh** until and unless they decide to look at and work on themselves. Once the kids are grown, they can disappear, like brue suggests. But that doesn't mean they are better, just gone!
Sorry to be the bearer of such terrific news! I'm feeling philosophical.
