WOW, Sally!! I'm just sitting here letting it all sink in. Still trying to get over the idea that the grass isn't greener in OW's yard. How could that really be?

Just remember who has the power now. You do. Don't give it up easily. Make demands on him. If you welcome him back with open arms, he stays in control. You have to force him to change. To be the better person. He has a lot of growing up to do. Unfortunately, as a mother, sometimes you not only have to raise your children, but you also have to bring your husband fully into adulthood.