still need to be here at times

[hopeful4her]

WDID,

I can understand your hesitancy in disclosing the letter and the details of your recent contact with OM. I know you don't want to hurt your H anymore than he already has been, but the pain and possible anger he might feel will only be temporary. The long-term effect will be to heal.


Might I also suggest, that should OM contact you again, tell your H about it BEFORE you make any decision to talk, e-mail, IM, the OM. If you are totally open and honest with your H beforehand and including him in the decision on what to do about the sitch, you are showing him that you are really committed to making this work. You will score BIG points in rebuilding trust by doing this, by showing your H that you care about and respect his feelings.

I agree. And it was best the OM knows that you are wanting to stay with H.

I like his response. That is a mans response. The kind of response that I wish my WW's chickensh** OM would give.

Not trying to be too harsh, but...

Get him the hell out of your mind. He didn't know you were wanting to get back with your H. He knows now. He's gonna forget about you now.

Now its your turn.

Blessings to you.