Where do...I...go from here?

[lise]

Hi all,

I have just been trying to catch up on threads here in this topic. I am new to figuring out that my H has been in MLC. I kept thinking he would snap out of his insantiy, but now I realize it will probably take years and I am starting to worry about protecting myself and our sons during this time.

You guys are talking about lawyers. How do you find a good one? I have been afraid to get a L because I didn't want to make H more angry. He wants to D "amicably" and go in together to file the papers without L. I said why would I do that when I don't even want a D? He accuses me of wanting to make things ugly. He's the one who started this! He says he wants to save the money, but I know what he thinks is reasonable in an agreement will not be what I think is fair - not that any of this is fair, but you know what I mean. My sister is a lawyer in another state and has told me I will get much more from a court decision than he is offering me. I don't talk to her very often because I am afraid of where she wants me to go with this. How do you balance staying friendly but not getting taken advantage of?