Count down to separation - so we can "try".

[TwinDad]

Hey Abbey, I just saw your post and I must say it sounds like we are pretty much in the same bucket. although it sounds like you don't have any children from your posts (I have alomost 3 year old twins). I quick sitch overview is we have been having major issues for about 6 months and recently sold our house that we built together and are going our own ways (her coice not mine). She is moving into her house this week and I will move into a rental home next week. Also our 11th anniversary was one day after your anniversary.

I agree with you this whole thing just bites and is very difficult. I seem to get mixed signals like you do. We have a great time together, she wants attention from me, but doesn't want to talk about the R at all. She says she wants some space. We can be up in the middle of the night joking around talking about "our" house that she calls it then 15 minutes later she will ask how if I have found a place to stay.

I feel torn between being her friend and following the advice that everyone is telling me (her friends and family); to give her enougth space to choke on (she doesn't do alone as well as I do). In fact we spent last week apart....I took the kids ona vacation as the week went by she contacted me more and more and I could tell she was getting lonely. We had a great mothers day together and yet I am still moving out this week.

I just don't get it. She seems to have very little remorse about separating at all. I guess she thinks she can take as much time as she would like to figure things out and I will just come running back.

Anyways.....I didn't want to hijack your thread, but wanted to let you know that you have someone on this board that is pretty much in the same boat as you are. I hope it works out well for the both of us.

TwinDad