ok, I'm officially back to db'ing. You guys are right, I have to look like the better option than ow. I also read in a book on affairs that the initial bomb they drop is the "I don't love you" bomb "and i want out". They also usually deny there is anyone else. That is exactly what happened in my sitch. And right now, ow IS looking like a better option I'm sure! With all my backsliding and crying (you'd think after reading DR and these boards 9000 times, I'd get it by now).
Anyway, question. Should I go dark? With the exception of isaballa, should I just have no contact with him? What about drop offs and pick ups (now only times I see him and he usually stays about 1-2 hours each time with Isabella). How do I handle these "visits"? Should I just ignore him when he's here?
How do you go "dark" when a child is involved? And what things can I do to look like the "better option" than ow?
