snowdog, I refuse to be angry 5 years from now. I haven't left the house either though. We're in counseling & he's trying to change. I'm trying to forgive.

So why do you suppose my H was no emotion, no response, etc while we were married ?

I'm glad for your kids sake that you're being mature. I'm sure it's not easy.

M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months
4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10
I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.