Will it make it easier on you

[MichelleLT]

So, tentative plan is to drive down Friday afternoon and come back Sunday evening. My mom and I both would have issues trying to attend the funeral. My dad is kinda pissed at the family politics of the whole thing. *sighs*

Weird convo with H tonight. I started talking to him on IM, he was friendly. I teased him about the hickey, he commented that "it was a good time" then we were chatting about other things. A while later he jumps back to Sunday night:
(7:50:46 PM) H: I'm not sure we should do that anymore though
(7:51:10 PM) H: meeting up like that
(7:51:55 PM) Me: dating? or just having sex?
(7:52:17 PM) H: they kind of go hand in hand
(7:53:20 PM) Me: sex isn't necessarily linked to dating
(7:54:08 PM) Me: what's bugging you about it?
(8:03:32 PM) H: its complicated
(8:03:56 PM) Me: yes, it is
(8:05:32 PM) Me: i see how the past complicates thing
(8:05:46 PM) Me: but i thought the present was pretty straight-forward. why do you think it isn't?
(8:11:31 PM) H: because it isn't
(8:14:26 PM) Me: are you worried that i think things will just go back to how they were?
(8:20:05 PM) Me: or are you worried i'm just using you for sex?
(8:25:06 PM) H: hmm
(8:29:12 PM) Me: i'm getting out of class now if you want to call me
He didn't call me.

I get that it is normal to have periods of contact and withdrawal, but I really don't know what to make of that convo. The only thing I can think is that he has residual guilt, or new guilt because maybe H and OW are "back together" or something. Or maybe it's just as simple as these encounters are reminding him of feelings he thought were long gone.

He did this the last time - saying it wasn't a good idea a few days later. And yet, a few weeks later, he's asking me over again. I know I should focus on his actions and not his words, but I figure his words will also be followed up, at least for the moment, with action.

Has anyone else been through this? Any ideas? I think that we wouldn't have talked much in the next week or two no matter what was said or not said - I am crazy busy with school and work, plus going out of town this weekend. So, that's a week and a half of NC most likely. Not sure what else to do.

It seems like we're finally talking more. And there were months of very little and NC. Not to mention no ML. So, these are all positives, even if I don't like what he's saying. I'm not sure I've given this new stuff enough time, or if I should switch it up yet.